We only regard those unions as real examples of love and real marriages in which a fixed and unalterable decision has been taken. If men or women contemplate an escape, they do not collect all their powers for the task. In none of the serious and important tasks of life do we arrange such a "getaway." We cannot love and be limited.
Love: a temporary insanity, curable by marriage.
Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle.
All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest--never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equal partnership.
Anna Garlin Spencer:
The friendship between a man and a woman which does not lead to marriage or desire for marriage may be a lifelong experience of the greatest value to themselves and to all their circle of acquaintance and of activity; but for this type of friendship both a rare man and a rare woman are needed. Perhaps it should be added that either the man or the woman thus deeply bound in lifelong friendship who seeks marriage must find a still rarer man or woman to wed, to make such a three cornered comradeship a permanent success.
Barbara De Angelis:
The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It's a choice you make - not just on your wedding day, but over and over again -- and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.
Barbara De Angelis:
Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day.
If divorce has increased by one thousand percent, don't blame the women's movement. Blame the obsolete sex roles on which our marriages were based.
An ideal wife is any woman who has an ideal husband.
Bruce Fisher and Robert Alberti:
Many people marry for the wrong reasons, among them 1) to overcome loneliness, 2) to escape an unhappy parental home, 3) because they think that everyone is expected to marry, 4) because only "losers" who can't find someone to marry stay single, 5) out of a need to parent, or be parented by another person, 6) because they got pregnant, 7) because "we fell in love," ... and on goes the list.
There are two dilemmas that rattle the human skull: How do you hang on to someone who won't stay? And how do you get rid of someone who won't go?
The War of the Roses
Political promises are much like marriage vows. They are made at the beginning of the relationship between candidate and voter, but are quickly forgotten.
He that hath a wife and children hath given hostages to fortune.
It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.
One of the first things a relationship therapist learns is that couples argue to burn up energy that could be used for something else. In fact, arguments often serve the purpose of using up energy, so that the couple do not have to take the courageous, creative leap into an unknown they fear. Arguing serves the function of being a zone of familiarity into which you can retreat when you are afraid of making a creative breakthrough.
Georg C. Lichtenberg:
Love is blind, but marriage restores its sight.
George Bernard Shaw:
All young women begin by believing they can change and reform the men they marry. They can't.
I have yet to hear a man ask for advice on how to combine marriage and a career.
Someone asked me why women don't gamble as much as men do, and I gave the commonsensical reply that we don't have as much money. That was a true and incomplete answer. In fact, women's total instinct for gambling is satisfied by marriage.
Some people claim that marriage interferes with romance. There's no doubt about it. Anytime you have a romance, your wife is bound to interfere.
The right to marry whoever one wishes is an elementary human right compared to which "the right to attend an integrated school, the right to sit where one pleases on a bus, the right to go into any hotel or recreation area or place of amusement, regardless of one's skin or colour or race" are minor indeed. Even political rights, like the right to vote, and nearly all other rights enumerated in the Constitution, are secondary to the inalienable human rights to "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness" proclaimed in the Declaration of Independence; and to this category the right to home and marriage unquestionably belongs. [Dissent, Winter 1959]
Any one must see at a glance that if men and women marry those whom they do not love, they must love those whom they do not marry.
Never trust a husband too far, nor a bachelor too near.
There is nothing nobler or more admirable than when two people who see eye to eye keep house as man and wife, confounding their enemies and delighting their friends.
All weddings are similar, but every marriage is different.
Marriage is our last, best chance to grow up.
What you are as a single person, you will be as a married person, only to a greater degree. Any negative character trait will be intensified in a marriage relationship, because you will feel free to let your guard down -- that person has committed himself to you and you no longer have to worry about scaring him off.
Marriage is not just spiritual communion, it is also remembering to take out the trash.
My husband and I have never considered divorce... murder sometimes, but never divorce.
The secret of a happy marriage is finding the right person. You know they're right if you love to be with them all of the time.
If you want to sacrifice the admiration of many men for the criticism of one, go ahead, get married.
Louis K. Anspacher:
Marriage is that relation between man and woman in which the independence is equal, the dependence mutual, and the obligation reciprocal.
Lyndon B. Johnson:
Only two things are necessary to keep one's wife happy. One is to let her think she is having her own way, the other, to let her have it.
After all these years, I see that I was mistaken about Eve in the beginning; it is better to live outside the Garden with her than inside it without her.
Love seems the swiftest, but it is the slowest of all growths. No man or woman really knows what perfect love is until they have been married a quarter of a century.
A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.
Mohandas K. Gandhi:
I first learned the concepts of non-violence in my marriage.
A good marriage is at least 80 percent good luck in finding the right person at the right time. The rest is trust.
To keep your marriage brimming,
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you're wrong admit it;
Whenever you're right shut up.
Marriage is the alliance of two people, one of whom never remembers birthdays and the other who never forgets.
Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.
Pearl S. Buck:
A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.
Rainer Maria Rilke:
A good marriage is that in which each appoints the other guardian of his solitude.
Ralph Waldo Emerson:
Is not marriage an open question, when it is alleged, from the beginning of the world that such as are in the institution wish to get out, and such as are out wish to get in?
I think men who have a pierced ear are better prepared for marriage. They've experienced pain and bought jewellery.
Robert C. Dodds:
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
Marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!
My advice to you is to get married. If you find a good wife, you'll be happy; if not, you'll become a philosopher.
Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry.
W. H. Auden:
Like everything which is not the involuntary result of fleeting emotion but the creation of time and will, any marriage, happy or unhappy, is infinitely more interesting than any romance, however passionate.
Elections are a good deal like marriages. There's no accounting for anyone's taste. Every time we see a bridegroom, we wonder why she ever picked him, and it's the same with public officials.
Getting a dog is like getting married. It teaches you to be less self-centred, to accept sudden, surprising outbursts of affection, and not to be upset by a few scratches on your car.