Discussing the necessity of an antenuptial contract may be a difficult discussion to have with your intended spouse. Because your choice will have significant legal and financial implications it is essential for the parties to explore their options before getting married.

Getting Married? - Handy Hints to get the DIFFICULT TOPIC OF AN ANTENUPTIAL Contract going  image
Writer's firm promotes their antenuptial contract services at various marriage expos every year. I have gained vast experience as to the mindset of these thousands of couples. It is clear from the expressions of many that they have not taken the time to discuss this vital subject.

It is also evident that there are misconceptions and antagonism about and against antenuptial contracts. As one lady eloquently stated, "We love each other! We don't need it". It was, however, very telling when this young lady's mother came back later to collect a brochure.

It is also saddening for the writer when he consults with couples married in community of property to see the devastation caused when they lose everything due to not taking the time to plan and mitigate their risks.

We understand that to the bride and groom, marriage is a loving contract between two people, as it should be, who want to spend the rest of their lives together. In the eyes of the Law and corporate business, marriage is also a contract between two people not about love, the matrimonial property regime they choose before getting married regulates a variety of economic rights, freedom to trade, exposure and obligations.

Should you thus not elect yourself, the Law will decide on your behalf. If you care about your spouse, you, therefore, owe it to yourself and your spouse to take the time to explore your options. Agreeing beforehand on these matters will put your marriage on a sounder footing.

It's hard to talk about marriage as if it were "business," but when it comes to creating a prenuptial agreement, that's precisely the approach you should take. A prenuptial agreement isn't a plan to leave or evidence of a lack of faith in the relationship. It merely is legal protection against the future risk you may be exposed to.

Start the conversation well before getting married 
Don't wait until a week before your wedding to discuss a prenuptial agreement with your intended. Explore the topic early in a relationship, if possible, before you become engaged.

Don't assume you are on the same page with your intended spouse. 
People have all kinds of notions about antenuptial contracts from their own experiences and subjective view. Don't assume that you and your spouse-to-be are on the same page with this topic; ask.

Use your head. Not your heart. 

It's tough to talk about your loving, committed relationship as if it were a business arrangement. If you and your intended can agree to be logical (rather than emotional) about preparing an antenuptial contract, you'll find it much more manageable.

Always consult your Attorney. 
If your spouse-to-be is hesitant, suggest that they consult a legal professional to explore the benefits. You may find iso consult with a legal professional to understand the different k might be covered in an antenuptial contract. The more informed you are, the easier it will be to explain things to your intended.

Whatever your decision may be. Please take the time to consider your options. Also, could you consider changing or amending your will and estate planning when getting married?

Louwrens Koen Attorneys have assisted thousands of couples with choosing the appropriate antenuptial contract. Please do not hesitate to contact us.
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